The Simple Joy of Silence
Shhh. What do you hear right now? What sounds and noises are around you?
We have two types of noises around us: the noises of a constantly moving world (traffic, dogs barking, neighbors doing their thing, animals on the roof…). Okay – animals on the roof may only be something on my list right now!

(this summer in the Rockies)
What else do you hear?
Why do you hear that? Is your TV constantly on? Is music always playing? Are headphones always in your ears?
Living in Germany taught me this amazing sense of silence. I was living in the middle of a compact city of 3.5 million people, and that’s where I learned silence. Crazy, right?
Have you ever gone over to someone’s house for dinner and they don’t turn off the TV? You feel like you’re competing with a television. Or how about going somewhere with someone who’s on a cell phone or constantly checking it all the time?
In Berlin, I was the ONLY person wearing headphones on my daily walks to school until I learned to ditch the audiobooks and music and just enjoy my journey. People were rarely on their cell phones as they walked or waited for the subways and buses. No one in class rushed to yank out his phone to check his texts and voice mails during our breaks. When class was done, we lingered.
I learned the beauty of silence. I noticed how much more relaxed it made me. I noticed how even though my class could barely even communicate with each other since we didn’t know much German, we learned to engage in conversation.

(this spring in Berlin)
I feel like I couldn’t do that in my US courses at all because everyone was in such a rush to turn on phones or get to the next activity.
With my classmates, I learned the beauty of silence over meals.
This weekend, pause for a moment and notice the sounds around you. Do it in the car, at your computer, while you’re preparing dinner. You don’t have to change anything. Just notice. Just embrace the effects silence can bring.
Will you do that?








September 24th, 2010 at 7:27 am
I am so bad for always having the TV on. I need to just turn it off.
September 24th, 2010 at 8:47 am
Very nice post! We were in New Zealand and Spain this past winter and spring and I too noticed that there was more social interaction among young people and much less texting then here in the U.S.
To me noise and light pollution are almost as bad as air and water pollution! I feel so fortunate we have a cabin in the mountains where we can go on hikes and get away from almost all the noise (occasional airplanes interrupt the silence.) Up there the night sky is amazing, some friends who visit say they’ve never seen the milky way so clear or seen as many stars. Cellphones don’t work up there and we don’t even have TV in town so we certainly don’t have it up there! It’s great how the kids will enjoy nature, sledding, building forts and read and play simple games and not even miss the constant texting.
I walk our dog every morning around a small lake and love listening to the birds and insects and seeing urban wildlife. It saddens me when I see a mother or father pushing a stroller and instead of interacting with their child they’re chatting away on their cellphone. I’ve pointed out bald eagles, deer and foxes which they’ve just walked past without noticing because they’re so intent on their phone calls.
September 24th, 2010 at 10:34 am
It’s funny Katie, I only started wearing headphones (occasionally) since moving to Berlin because so many people here do! We must live in different parts of the city…. I most often listen to music when I’m in transit and there’s so much noise I’m almost overwhelmed. Sometimes I love to listen to the ambiant noise, soak it up, dissect it and try to single out all the sources of noise… but then other times I listen to music to simplify the input in my head.
But wonderful post! Berlin is an amazingly quiet city.
September 24th, 2010 at 10:42 am
Great recommendation, Katie!
September 24th, 2010 at 3:51 pm
Oh Katie how I wish it were ever silent in my house. Well, not really. I embrace the chaos! It’s for such a fleetingly short period of time in the scheme of things, right!? We only have one tv, and it’s downstairs in the family room, so we never have it on when people visit, or when we eat in the kitchen or dining room. Music, on the other hand, I have going almost all day long – we dance allll the time!
September 24th, 2010 at 4:29 pm
Great post! About a year ago I moved to a 380 sq. ft. one bedroom apartment, and since I’m the only one living here I’ve begun noticing silence a lot more. Instead of having music on all the time, when I turn it on its a much more conscious decision to listen to a particular album. But you’re right, its difficult to create time for silence and space for rest in our busy busy American culture.
@Larissa, hope you’re not using your headphones when you’re biking to the S-Bahn.
September 24th, 2010 at 5:56 pm
my favorite “silent” experience: standing in my parents’ driveway in the middle of the night in winter during a light snowfall.
the streetlight in the neighbor’s yard lent an orangey glow to the scene and the snow seemed to blanket everything in a puffy soft silence. i don’t know that i’ve ever felt that peaceful before or since.
lately the closest i get to silence is reading after work before the hubby gets home and turns the tv on.
September 24th, 2010 at 7:28 pm
With small children about, there isn’t much silence here. There are times when I go and sit on the floor in the bathroom in the dark with the door shut just to have a moment to myself. it may seem strange, but when you don’t have any quiet time to yourself, you realize how much you need it and crave it.
September 24th, 2010 at 11:53 pm
Great post Katie and so true! It’s funny though, that you learned this in Germany. I am german and I am experiencing those high noise levels everyday and also at my friend’s houses. My boyfriend and I don’t watch TV any more and I am starting to even get annoyed by the radio on my drive to work. Silence is addictive!
I just did a post that totally fits in your way of thoughts: http://tidytipsy.wordpress.com/2010/09/09/relishing/ (I don’t normally link like this in comments but it just fits in here so well, so I hope you don’t mind!).
By the way, I love love love your blog and being german makes it extra interesting for me to read :) Thank you for sharing your way of life with us and inspiring us!
September 26th, 2010 at 7:53 am
Larissa – I’ve been thinking about what you said. How interesting! It could also vary by the time of day and direction we’re each traveling. Have you noticed the traffic jams in the morning going into the city center while the roads heading out are practically empty? That’s always been interesting to watch in Berlin!
Great thoughts everyone!
Katie