The Homes of Hoarders
Have you ever heard of compulsive cluttering or obsessive hoarding? It’s actually a disease, and I remember being in the homes of people who just brought so much stuff into their homes until the spaces completely filled up. You couldn’t even open the door of one home all the way.
Gradually, no one was going into those homes but the people who lived there. Not even their own grandchildren were visiting! There just wasn’t room for visitors. All of this stuff – enormous quantities of things and the accumulation of more things took over these peoples’ lives. It was new stuff; it was old stuff. It was things that mattered, and it was things that didn’t. And they were so embarrassed, but they just couldn’t stop. It’s such a heartache to experience!
Confession: I watched a little TV on Thursday. I had to go to someone else’s house to do it. But I just had to see what Opera was talking about on the issue of compulsive cluttering when I got wind of the episode that originally aired in 2007. (As a side note – wowzers! I couldn’t believe how LOUD commercials were. We had to turn up and down the volume like a cat owner letting the cat in and out of the house.)

This woman on Oprah couldn’t stop shopping or bringing more and more into her house in an episode called Inside the Lives of Hoarders. If you get a chance, click on a few of the links on that episode. I haven’t seen them all. But I can tell you this – I suspect there were thousands of women attacking junk drawers and garages and making huge runs to drop stuff off at thrift shops after this show! It’s intense.
It all goes back to the sorts of things you and I talk about with The Decluttering Project: owning quality things instead of a greater quantity, parting with the excess, and loving what we have.
I took Oprah’s hoarding quiz to find out where I stand on the Hoarding Severity Scale. The quiz is right here so you can take it with me.
My scores were 3, 2, 3. In other words, I’ve got the discard category down and easily ditch stuff I don’t really need (according to Oprah’s quiz master… maybe not Martin!). But her quiz master feels I’m going to have to work on the acquiring department. (Yet there were no questions that said, “When was the last time you bought clothes?” Why is that?!)
So go take the quiz and let us know how you score. Or watch some clips from the hoarding days at Oprah and tell us what you’re tempted to head off and declutter a little! I love a little simplicity – don’t you?
Note to those of you outside of the US: Can you view these clips? We’ve never been able to see US tv station clips outside of the US, so if that is the case for you, too, I apologize. Nothing like reading, “Oh you HAVE TO SEE THIS,” only to not be able to. Just take the quiz then and forgive me, will ya?








August 9th, 2010 at 7:07 am
Katie,
This is such a problem with some american’s there is actually a weely show on cable called “hoarders” and each week they visit a home where someone has this problem and try to help them. One lady was so bad that when she would go to a fast food place she would actually wash the wrappers the food came in and save them.
While you are vacationing in USA, I just got back from visiting my family in Germany. I must say I had forgot how clean Germany is. Germany sure has it right when it comes to recycling. I cant wait for the day to move there for good.
As far as the TV problem for people in Germany, I found that you can go to Hulu.com and see most any tv show you want. Or you can go to nationphone.com. On this site you can actually be set up with a cable account from the statess which you can view on your tv or computer that is feed to you through the internet and viewed with a dvr box.
August 9th, 2010 at 8:04 am
My score is 8,6,8! I think the scores would be a lot lower were it not for books and crafting supplies.. but I’m working on those. :)
August 9th, 2010 at 12:30 pm
Oh goodness! I actually DVRd this episode because I found it interesting, yet mildly freaky (I have believed for YEARS my mother is a hoarder…as are her mother and sister, which is probably why I try to hard NOT to be, yet am arguably not very successful!) Anywhoo! I totally thought of this blog while I was watching it and thought of you and Martin and how freaked out you (might) be to see this show. I didn’t think you would actually SEE it, haha. =]
I really felt for this woman because she really wanted to change, you can tell. It was so hard to watch her because it was like she was having an actual struggle. People often laugh and say they are shopaholics as if it’s a “cute” thing, when in reality, you are right, it is very often a disease.
August 9th, 2010 at 2:02 pm
I scored in the “mild” catagory on all three scores.
Clutter is constantly a task at hand to be accomplished
in getting rid of.
The Oprah showed that aired…I was watching also.
What a sweet-hearted woman in which they helped.
There was an update on her…as this show we saw
last week was a re-run….and happily to report, still
to this day…her home is clutter free!!! A happy ending!!!
August 9th, 2010 at 4:16 pm
Having grown up in a hoarder household (my Dad – who at least confined the piles and stacks to his study) I have always been careful about accumulating “stuff”. And when I had to clean out his home to sell it after he passed away, I vowed I would never let a situation like that to develop in my life that my children would have to deal with. I have no problem getting rid of things, what I have to be careful of is not buying things. I have gotten quite good at that, but it is definitely something I have to be aware of.
August 9th, 2010 at 9:48 pm
My mom has hoarder tendencies. Even as a young child, I hated all of the clutter and would spend hours cleaning out closets and cabinets, only to see it all pile up again. Now, as an adult, I hate clutter. I have no problem getting rid of things, and just need to be careful not to acquire things I don’t really need. I have seen what it’s like to be buried by stuff, and never want to be in that place.
As an overseas reader, I CAN watch the Oprah clips (surprisingly!), but I usually can’t watch US-based videos. Hulu.com doesn’t work for us, unfortunately–we always get the “You appear to be outside the US” message every time.
August 10th, 2010 at 2:10 am
I saw the show when it originally aired and again the other day (to refresh my memory). Oh, the horror! My aunt was/is a hoarder. I haven’t been in her house for years because of it. Ick.
Morgan, try tvshack.cc. They don’t have Oprah, but they have thousands of other shows, usually the day after they air in the US.
August 10th, 2010 at 7:26 am
After 3 years, this woman on Oprah is still keeping her home uncluttered? That’s absolutely beautiful. Good for her!
And thanks for the tips on catching American TV overseas should the mood strike, folks!
Katie
August 10th, 2010 at 7:34 am
Mom in High Heels…thanks for the tip! I just tried the link and it works here! I’m not too sad about missing Oprah, but might be checking out missed episodes of The Office soon. :)
August 10th, 2010 at 3:29 pm
I got 4, 4, 7. It is hard for me to turn down free stuff sometimes. It’s getting easier, though. But, as a child of parents who grew up in the Depression, I’m used to looking for bargains and saving stuff for later. I’m good at getting rid of stuff now, though.
August 10th, 2010 at 3:35 pm
I scored Mild in Difficulty Discarding and Acquiring which is pretty accurate. I scored a 9 in clutter but in my defense that relates more to the fact that we moved from a 1,000 sq ft apartment into a 700 sq ft home. I’m still surprised how much junk came from that missing 300 sq ft. We’re working on it – I promise :)
My husband had an elderly aunt with a box of string in her closet labeled “String Too Short To Keep.” It’s sort of the family joke because everyone on his side of the family has a hard time throwing stuff away. So at our home when he doesn’t want to get rid of something all I have to do is repeat the phrase “String Too Short To Keep” and 90% of the time he’ll get rid of it.
August 11th, 2010 at 12:42 am
There is a freaky book about some hoarders in NYC, old eccentric rich brothers, called Ghosty Men, for anyone interested in reading some more hoarder stories.
I had similar scores to Katie on the Oprah quiz…no problem getting rid of stuff, but according to them, a bit of a problem with acquiring. I didn’t like that they don’t differentiate between kinds of hoarding. I mean, me hoarding wood that I will someday burn in my woodstove and heat my house with seems to me to be a bit different than collecting jewelry or magnets or something of that sort. What do you guys think?
August 11th, 2010 at 8:32 am
I watch a show (Buried alive) its about Horders scares me to death! My Mom and a sister have these tendencies. I like it uncluttered and simple and they feel I am living this way because of finances, no it’s because I’m afraid I’ll become like them. My grandmother had this problem too.
August 11th, 2010 at 9:58 am
We loooove Jackie’s story about a String Too Short To Keep Box. Martin and I are totally going to use that – so thank you, Jackie!
“Want me to put this in your ‘String Too Short To Keep’ box?” !!
Katie
August 14th, 2010 at 11:30 am
Wow…my scores were 9, 15, and 11. I have a 3-bedroom house, but one room (the guest bedroom) is total clutter. Every surface of my home has “stuff” on it. I lost two brothers a few years ago and the love of my life broke up with me during that time. I noticed things going downhill, but it wasn’t too bad…yet.
My mom unexpectedly passed away early this year and that was extremely hard on me. Then my son got married, which is a wonderful thing, but of course, I need to respect his relationship and not depend on him too much. The losses and change in family status has been overwhelming.
Adding to that, I have some serious back issues that limit my mobility when it comes to cleaning (vacuuming is out of the question). Did I mention that I also work full time and an carrying a full load of school too? Not a lot of free time.
I fear becoming a hoarder and those test scores emphasize the need for me to address this before it becomes worse. So I invited some friends over and when they get here we are going to go through at least one room and put things in piles to throw away, donate, sell, or keep. My son and his wife are also going to take some of the kitchen items that I don’t use anymore. A journey starts with little steps – I hope this begins the healing process for me.
October 27th, 2010 at 2:25 pm
Hey Katie,
Thanks for the post (even if I am commenting months later). This made me think of a great article I saw in the NY Times about the same time. It is called “But Will It Make You Happy?” and can be found at http://www.nytimes.com/2010/08/08/business/08consume.html?_r=3. It talks about people being happier when they actually spend time thinking about and anticipating a purchase of an item vs impulse buying and when they buy experiences like trips, classes or a trip to the local museum vs when they buy stuff.
I definitely grew up in a situation that was heavily influenced by at least 2 previous generations of hoarding. While I never referred to it as hoarding before (always “pack rat”) that is ultimately what it is. I have definitely gotten better about not keeping things, especially since getting married and having our limited storage apartment (though papers are my biggest downfall… I can’t seem to not come home with some from every event I go to). I love a suggestion you made at one point on your site about taking pictures of sentimental things (like some old book ends you once made). That has really stuck with me whenever I am deciding to keep something or not. I scan things and have a lot of digital stuff (though that brings up an entirely different issue, which is the energy consumption of our digital world).
Also, for the last couple years I have had a “clothes rule” that whenever I get something new, something old must come out of the closet first. And I have started participating in clothing swaps and always make a point to go home with less than what I brought. Both have worked really well and swaps are tons of fun!
Thanks again for another great post!