Meaningful Valentine’s Gifts for your Guy
if you’re not a chocolates and flowers kind of couple just like us, it doesn’t mean Valentine’s Day has to be any less sweet. We’ve found that the secret to a successful Valentine’s Day isn’t in seeking traditional gifts like heart shaped boxes – especially when it comes to most guys. So if you’re looking for a way to share the love without commercial products or the standard DIY coupon book, here’s a list of ideas wI turn to year after year.
Swing by the office for a surprise lunch date or prepare one at home.
Pop in at your guy’s office with lunch plans – maybe a cozy meal for just the two of you (go to a local cafe or go homemade) or something really light hearted with the kids. Since Smooch Day lands on a Sunday this year, surprise him a little early (and avoid the love rush at restaurants) on Friday.
Change his computer wallpaper.
There’s nothing more surprising than opening your computer to find a new background because it’s just not something we expect. Make his wallpaper a picture of the two of you. Better yet, add a little text bubble and include a message that confesses your love or has you telling a corny Valentine’s joke that’s sure to give him a good laugh.

Do something he’s been wishing for.
Listen for lofty thoughts he throws out. This gift could be making the homemade pizza he’d been mentioning, getting some of that annoying paperwork on his desk taken care of, or organizing his photo albums on the computer. Just pay attention to the things he’s casually mentioning or struggling with. A great gift is making life a little easier for someone.
Try something new together.
Sign up for a class you can take together. Or experience the symphony one night. You might walk into a dance class with four left feet between the two of you and walk out of the class with dance skills that are just as awkward. But it’s a blast trying. After all, aren’t we always saying that experiences are better than stuff?
Give your guy Settlers of Catan.
To date, we have met no man who dislikes Settlers of Catan. It’s a strategy board game that’s quickly taking Monopoly down to the #2 spot. If you didn’t know that was even possible, then you have to try Settlers of Catan. We can pretty much guarantee that once your man gets his hands on this game, it’s love forever. Love of you, love of the game. Psst… girls love it too.

Cook dinner together.
Make your meal prep all about time together. Try a new recipe – it could be something simple or really challenging. The best successes (like when we made caramels) incorporate some sort of gadget. Whether it’s as fancy as a pasta roller or as simple as the electric beaters, guys who don’t traditionally cook get more excited when a gadget pokes its head into the picture.
What other types of things do you like to give to your sweetheart? Or what do you like to do? The ideas you all share are so brilliant. Thank you for making this a place where we can bounce ideas off of one another in the comments so frequently. So won’t you share?








February 10th, 2010 at 9:09 am
oh, you just gave me so many ideas, right when I was scrounging! =)
Once my husband taped a note to my steering wheel and set the car stereo to be playing ‘our song’ on a cd when I turned on the car. That was super cute and cost nothing but time! Really started that morning’s commute on the right note, ha ha! ; )
ps – We’re also “Sietlers” fans, but we don’t own our own set yet – however, we did just give it to my brother for Christmas…hm. My hubby is really not a game guy, but this is the one game he will ‘tolerate’ as he says, ha!
February 10th, 2010 at 9:31 am
I’ve gone for something different this year – I took 11 envelopes, one for each month left this year, in each of them I put a date. A big of scrapbook paper or card wtih a photo printed or a drawing or just a note about what the date it. Most of them are free or cheap dates, some are low budget. I’m going to wrap some ribbon round all the envelopes in a pile to give him. Each month he gets to pick and open an envelope and then we can plan when to do that date.
They include things like a walk along the beach and money for a few bags of chips, me to make a dinner of his choosing, climb a munro, a round of mini golf, trip to a museum and art gallery, watching the DVD of our first date movie with some home made popcorn. It’s been fun to come up with ideas and put the envelopes together.
February 10th, 2010 at 10:51 am
Fantastic ideas. I’ve been looking at Settlers for a long time, but of course it’s in German, so I’ve not bought it. I may have to order it in English from Amazon though. Mr. HH loves games. Me too!
February 10th, 2010 at 12:09 pm
I’ve been single for 7 years, so I hate Valentine’s Day with a fiery passion, but I love the Settlers of Catan idea! ;-)
February 10th, 2010 at 2:36 pm
I love Catan!!
Other games you will like if you like Catan….
Ticket to Ride
Dominion
Carcassonne
Power Grid
February 10th, 2010 at 2:57 pm
These are all great suggestions! I was moved by Juliette’s memorable Valentine day.
Stina, remember that Valentine’s Day is just another EXCUSE for retailers to sell STUFF, just like on President’s Day, Labor Day, St. Patrick’s Day, etc. The idea that “expressions of love” should be SAVED for one COMMERCIAL SALES DAY is nuts… at least from my perspective… which is often, very odd!
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This is decades old, so you probably already know about Gary Chapman’s “Five Love Languages” concept. Everyone has a love language, and we all identify primarily with one of the five love languages:
1. Words of Affirmation
2. Quality Time
3. Receiving Gifts
4. Acts of Service
5. Physical Touch
The best-received gift will always be a gift in our loved-one’s language (not our own). [My DH's is #1, mine is #2.] But, often (usually?), people GIVE gifts in their OWN language, and bomb out.
Here’s more information about the love languages, if you are interested:
http://www.5lovelanguages.com/learn-the-languages/the-five-love-languages/
Perhaps this could be useful, too:
Five Languages of Apology
http://www.5lovelanguages.com/learn-the-languages/the-five-languages-of-apology/
Chapman has a 30-second love language assessment and a blog, too; just click on the tabs. Once I overlooked his religious “preachiness” on his blog, I found his “language” information very insightful, and right-on.
I must thank Stina, for this, too… I was intrigued with her words “fiery passion” in her post. While writing this, I received a very powerful insight into how **I** show “fiery passion” for **MYSELF**. My primary love language is Quality Time. I realized that when I want to TREAT MYSELF, I often curl up with a book and a cup of cappuccino.
Do I feel a “fiery passion” when I do this? AB-SO-LUTE-LY!!! It’s my love language!!!! Did someone else have to give it to me? Nope.
Kathryn Kistner in Texas, who’s SURE she hears the Hallelujah Chorus with this realization.
Monks perform Hallelujah Chorus (The singing begins at 1:36)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5HkXmOIwpkQ
February 10th, 2010 at 3:09 pm
Oh those are some cute ideas, ladies! Kathryn, I think you make some beautiful points. I haven’t seen a single valentine’s day related item in Germany yet… it’s a beautiful thing!
Kathryn is so right – expressing love doesn’t just come in the form of gifts. Look at that list!
Oh we’re huge fans of Ticket to Ride and Carcassonne. (not familiar with the other ones, Danielle… YET!) The greatest thing about these games is that they’re German, which means we can get them in the US and in Germany. I’m still working on reading the playing cards in German – but patience!
Katie
February 11th, 2010 at 8:55 am
Okay, now I’m going to need to get Settlers of Catan… it sounds perfect for my guy. We’re doing a marathon on VDay and will be lying around the house all day. Thanks for the idea :).
February 15th, 2010 at 9:16 am
Filled Husband’s car with 50 pounds of potatoes and a handmade card that said “I only have EYES for you!”
Potatoes – $13.80
Big Valentine’s laugh – priceless!
We will, however, be eating potatoes for quite a while – LOL!
February 10th, 2012 at 10:18 am
I did the same thing as Jade did! For Christmas, I made envelopes, each one with a different simple and inexpensive (or free!) date day/night idea that we can do together. Each month, he’ll open one up. We’re using our February envelope this weekend for an early Valentine’s date! So fun!
I also love that you included making a meal together – this is one of my all time favorite things to do for date night (but mostly when we divide tasks! haha). Thanks for the great ideas!!