Revealing a Few Secrets You Didn’t Know
With the sound of a hammer as my background music today, I thought I’d take up Amy’s challenge and show you the man behind the tarp in our kitchen remodel and a few of our secrets. This is my husband, Martin:
At the Hot Pots of Yellowstone National Park
He’s spearheading our kitchen remodel. Building cabinets has always been his dream. A dream kitchen has always been mine, so we’ve become a great team. hehe. We talk out our ideas, and he takes the charge in making this happen. We both know our roles and how to keep each other motivated.
Secret One.
Our biggest challenge is communication. He uses technical words like radial while I will say something like pancake-shaped, so we never know what each other is saying. We still can’t agree on how you define the word shelf, and we will be arguing about molten butter versus melted butter until death. We think a little differently.
He has made things like this for me:
And I have made things like this for him:
And then we’ve stored them away in our personal memories. Until now.
Secret Two.
It’s been really weird for us to share our German adventure with all of you online. We’ve always been introverts. We’ve also always been very passionate about life and the environment. I dream of building a book of children’s poems and making poetry feel interesting, and Martin studies power electronics with plans in renewable technology fields. I’m not sure if we’ve really told people that before, especially the poetry part.
Secret Three.
I only knew one German word when we moved here: haselnuss eis (hazelnut ice cream! my favorite), but I never felt worried or scared because I had my husband. If you ask, Martin will say he speaks a little German. And a little Czech. But he’s fibbing. My brother says you have to ask Martin three questions about something before he’ll start talking. Then you’ll realize his technical skills and language skills and… He’s been a wonderful crutch and translator for me in Germany while I learn, and he is never boastful about it.
I tried to show off my new German skills to him the other night and casually asked, “Welches?” My American accent was pretty heavy.
He looked at me with a wrinkled forehead and said, “Grape juice?”
Sigh. He had no idea I was trying to speak German. I was asking him, “Which one?”
Secret Four.
It’s impossible to study with a fluent speaker and be married to him, people, especially when he can’t visualize pancake-shaped in English. Technically, he argues that a pancake is never perfectly round. How are we supposed to communicate and AGREE in a second language?
And yet, he makes me laugh. He comes home with stories of his coworkers asking which is the thing you eat: beagles or bagels. And sometimes, he even sits down to read a poem to me. He’s my guy. He’s the one who gives me the courage (and technical support) to share ideas with you. He’s also the one who deserves some help in the kitchen right now, so I must run.
Meanwhile, tell me your thoughts. On your guy. On our decision to reveal this house and us. On what love means to you.
Thank you for supporting us.











November 6th, 2008 at 2:38 pm
Thanks so much for stopping by my blog! I’ve really enjoyed stopping by to read about your husband and can’t wait to come back to visit again. :)
Angie in OH
November 6th, 2008 at 3:24 pm
I loved reading this and those cute photos. Do you eat beagles or bagels made me laugh! This also made me think of how much I love my husband and I think I’m going to try to make a new dish for dinner tonight – he’s the chef of our household (one of the things I absolutely love about him). Thanks for the smiles!
November 6th, 2008 at 3:43 pm
What a great post! I find it interesting how our husbands are so opposite from us, but we fit perfectly together. We have that same technical vs. creative communication issue also! ha. It was wonderful meeting your other half. So glad you participated and told your juicy secrets:-)
November 6th, 2008 at 4:10 pm
Hi Katie (& Martin)…this was a delightful and interesting post to read. My hubby & ! have been married 39 1/2 years and could not possibly be more opposite….the thing I love most about him is that he has the patience of Job with me and needs it most of the time too. ;-) Bo
November 6th, 2008 at 5:25 pm
Funny, the other day I was hoping that you would do a husband post so I could learn a little more about him. You read my mind.
Too funny about the “Welches” thing. I can just imagine!! Let me know if you need to know how to say anything to impress him. I would love to dig into my German skills again!
Oh, while I am thinking about it, I know someone that lived in Germany for awhile, but now she is in St. Louis, Missouri. Her name is Kristal and her blog is listed on my page if you would like to make another friend. She’s not pregnant though. ;)
November 6th, 2008 at 6:13 pm
Thanks for sharing about your hubby. I may have to do this one of these days also…I share quite a bit about him already :)
We also have the issue with no seeming to speak the same language. I just assume it has something to do with being male vs. female. I have been around with his parents when the same discussions start and I’ll know exactly what she means while his dad & Stefan sit their clueless. Maybe we really are from Venus ;-)
Glad you guys are doing well. The kitchen is looking great :)
November 6th, 2008 at 7:23 pm
Martin sounds like a wonderful guy. The bagels/beagles part really made me chuckle – I own a beagle!!
The kitchen remodel looks like it is really coming along great. I hope you post a pic of the final product!
November 6th, 2008 at 9:11 pm
I’m so glad you shared…maybe one day i’ll share a little more about Aaron, too. I talk about him here and there on the “family” blog…but since I am writting that for an audience that I assumes knows him, I don’t say much. I guess i’ll need to do something on my crafty blog one day. :) I’m so glad you’re sharing your remodel with us! ..and a bit about yourselves.
November 6th, 2008 at 10:35 pm
What a neat story…my husband, being from Macedonia, then living in Austria, speaks Macedonian, a little German and Polish and then English of course…although the way he says, “Bathroom” sounds like “Bedroom” and I get confused sometimes and ask him if it is the room with the toilet or not, lol. Things like that…I am sure you can relate:)
I have always had a tad of Social Anxiety Disorder…but ever since moving to this home and really being cooped up with not alot of socialization happening…well, I am getting worse. I can’t wait til my little one starts full time school, so I can get a part time job and get out of the house again and be around grown-ups ;)
Loved your story!
Bella
November 6th, 2008 at 11:21 pm
You are such a cutie pie couple. Loved your secrets. As you may know, it’s exactly the opposite at our house. I’m the Czech and hubby is the American. He is making me laugh. I appreciate that the most (besides that he loves me of course :o)
BTW: Hazelnut and lemon flavored ice creams are my favorites :o)
November 7th, 2008 at 2:35 am
Martin sure is a funny guy. The molten butter still makes me shake my head. As far as the husbands go, I sure am glad that both you and I have nerdy husbands so that you and I can talk in peace while they talk in nerd-o language.
November 7th, 2008 at 2:48 am
This is a GREAT post!! I love the format you used to tell the story, including the pictures. Nice to meet Martin! KV
November 7th, 2008 at 7:22 am
Y’all are so cute. Keep it up. Before you know it, you’ll have been married 25 glorious years. :-)
November 7th, 2008 at 9:31 am
Hey, Katie! Like I said the other day, we are both very lucky women to have our Martins! They are the greatest, aren’t they? We are the same way, too. Martin likes his “computer stuff” and I like to bake for him.
Everyday here is like a sitcom in our flat. How is it in your’s?
November 7th, 2008 at 11:23 pm
I’m here from Amy’s hubby day…
You two are so cute! Sometimes the best laughs come out of mis-communications!
November 8th, 2008 at 4:28 am
I really enjoyed this post! I had to laugh over the “welches/grape juice” mixup. Your hubby sounds like he compliments you well. I know my husband & I are total opposites and that can be quite an adventure:)
November 8th, 2008 at 6:50 am
I just love this post. It’s cute to hear things that are more personal but not PERSONAL. And I totally understand the whole pancake thing. Geeez. *L* I admire you for moving to Germany and only knowing how to order your favorite ice cream. That’s great. :) I bet it’s been an exciting ride. And although I’m new here I think it’s awesome that you’ve created this blog to share your experiences.
November 9th, 2008 at 11:12 pm
Congrats to Bo for almost 40 years of marriage! Don’t know if I’ll be blogging then.. but sure am hoping for Martin in my life then. I hope many of you bloggers tell us about your husbands. I’ll be watching!
Glad to hear so many of you and your spouses are so opposite in many ways, too. Makes life interesting, I think.
Meanwhile, ya’ll have embarrassed my husband to a bright shade of red. :)
Katie
March 28th, 2009 at 8:17 pm
You made me laugh!!! I have had the discussion of “molten butter/melted butter” with my friends from Berlin so many times. During our visit with them there, she and I spent the evenings with her teaching me some German and I helping her “refine” her English (which was excellent but not colloquial).